Collaborative Divorce Coach
There is hope after a divorce. The way that your divorce is managed contributes to what your post-divorce life could be. The traditional litigated divorce dehumanizes you and keeps you in an adversarial position, not allowing for proper insight on relationship advice. Whereas, the collaborative divorce empowers you during what could be a challenging and painful time so the process of your divorce could be viewed in a more positive and personally fulfilling manner.
With a team of supportive professionals (collaborative lawyers, divorce coache(s), child specialists, and/or financial specialists) you and your spouse/partner pledge not to go to court, practice an honest, open exchange of information, and determine joint solutions that take into account both of your needs and your child (children) needs.
As a divorce coach, Wendy Iglehart, LCPC assists you through the collaborative process, provides you support through your emotional turmoil, and helps you define your present and future goals. Divorce is a difficult part of your life, and she’s here to help empower you and your family through this transition.
Listed below are some of the roles, benefits, and helpful tips when it comes to having a collaborative divorce coach.
Role as Your Collaborative Divorce Coach:
- Sort out difficult feelings and listen to your story
- Anticipate emotionally charged issues
- Manage emotions during interest-based negotiations
- Identify strengths and weaknesses
- Teach how to interact and communicate in a respectful manner
- Help develop effective co-parenting skills
- Increase effective communication and conflict resolution skills
Benefits of Collaborative Divorce Process:
- You and your spouse/partner control the process
- You and your spouse/partner create the timetable
- Mutual respect and openness discourages an adversarial system
- No court involvement so dispute does not become a matter of public record
- Team of professionals assist in transition of new family structure
- Joint access to specialist for guidance
- Team remains accessible post-divorce
Helpful Tips to Have a Conversation About Collaborative:
- Be clear about why you want collaborative
- Anticipate your spouse/partner becoming defensive about your research
- Be willing to listen
- Avoid talk about a settlement proposal, stick with the process choices
- Meet in a public place with separate transportation
- Consider recruiting a neutral friend, counselor, rabbi, minister, or the like